I have never been big on social media since its inception. My first exposure to the social media craze was with MySpace. I suspect that this is true for many others too.
For me the challenge had and has always been that I didn’t have any exciting life filled with explorations, travels, and activities all documented with photos to show how exciting my life was. Truth be told, it was very unpretentious.
But nevertheless I created a profile and watched the birth of an era unfold.
MySpace seemed to be targeted towards a difference audience. MySpace was more frequently appealing to the younger crowd ranging from early teens to late twenties. Additionally, it was a mecca for established and up and coming music artists whom could be found all over MySpace. I felt out of place. In retrospect, it had more the feeling and look of media advertisement for musicians than it appeared a place for people to socialize.
The Facebook Era
Then along came Facebook. It was a breath of fresh air for many including myself. It was seemingly much more mature in its approach and yet was all inclusive in its appeal. Young ,old, male, and female seem to take well to Facebook. I wasn’t sold on the idea of another social media platform and besides, what an odd name for a site…Facebook. On the surface the name is an oddity. Seems to me the MySpace made more sense in that it was your space to spruce up and hang out to socialize.
Facebook’s mission is to give people the power to share and make the world more open and connected.
With that mission statement seemingly proudly displayed on the Facebook info/about page, I would say that has truly come to fruition.
But could there be a narcissistic addiction stigma attached to using Facebook? And what can be said about social media as a whole?
Being open an honest about this question, I must accept the fact that I have had my share of contacts on Facebook who I would most certainly label narcissistic or at the very least, addicted. But who am I to judge any of these said people? If I do not have a fabulous life full of adventure, excitement, and mischief, how is appropriate for me to judge them for it?
Maybe in reality I envy them. My life as of late has been challenging to say the least.
I certainly enjoyed the antics and self absorbed behavior many of my Facebook friends displayed regularly. They shared the good and joyful things about life that make us feel alive and well.
But as with all things, there is a bad side to the life experience that was shared as well all of which keep a fair balance. But for me, I have learned that I have not much to share on Facebook. I have nothing really to be narcissistic about…yet.
So I have taken a leave of absence for the time being. I suppose you could say that I am in the process of a personal renaissance of sorts. I taken the time to define who I am today…five years after suffering a company downsizing that left me unemployed. Examining the last 15 years of my life working with an autistic Son with all the challenges that come with that. Exploring the meaning of being a husband, father, friend, and accepting a helping hand when it is obvious I need it.
None of the aforementioned is easy to process at times and I have yet to come to terms with…but I press forward with optimism.
I esteem any and all who would fall under the label of a Facebook Narcissist or any other social media venue. Share and enjoy your life as you see fit so long as it does you and no one else any harm.
This doctor takes issue with what she regards to as Facebook Narcissists.