Each year I lose the fight against time, and I get one year older. This year I turned 45 (2013) and realized that I have firmly settled in the realm of middle aged complacency. This is to say that I no longer think that I can’t remain young at least not in the sense chronological terms. However, I am certainly well within my ability to slow down and minimize the aging of effects.
I am inherently conservative by nature and look for logic and reason in all aspects of life particularly where it counts most. But by no means does this make me perfect in any way as I have learned over the years.
21 Things You May or May Not Know About Me
1. I don’t believe that life inherently has a meaning. This means that I don’t believe in religion or a higher being nor am I spiritual. I believe in evolution, and I think that mankind is continuing to evolve although I’m not quite sure if we could be completely proud without challenge to that notion.
2. I believe what you choose to do with your life, with your time, with your heart is how we as individuals commission meaning to our lives. So long as it is pure, uplifting, and honors others, I am whole.
3. I was born in Camden City, New Jersey in 1968.
4. I stand 5’11” tall and weigh 160-165 lbs. (although I did weigh 185-190 lbs. not too long ago).
5. I have never been found of flying so I think that my longing to travel Europe will likely never happen (oddly enough I have flown in a Cessna aircraft which I equate to a 1964 Volkswagen Beetle with wings)!
6. Although I grew up a Christian (Seventh Day Adventist) I no longer believe in religion.
7. I am the father of three boys all of which are men now and are 26, 21, and 18 years of age.
8. I was thrusted into manhood at the age of 18 after I lost both parents in a family tragedy.
9. I was a salesperson for 16 years for a large national building supply company. There were many great things I learned about myself, people, and eventually the cooperate world.
10. Three days after Christmas of 2008, I walked into my job of 16 years only to be laid off. In hindsight, I wasted my best years (age 24-40) working for a corporation that sees people as numbers and statistics.
11. It took a layoff, a serious car accident (thankfully no one was injured but the car was totaled), a religious revolution, and a personal bankruptcy (all of which where in very close proximity) to realize that there is more to life than following the status quo. That thinking for yourself is not only a challenge but necessary.
12. I have been married for 21 years. I am a very fortunate man indeed.
13. I am not into watching sports like most men. I will watch a game here and there, but I only become vested when the chase for the world series / championship starts, otherwise I can take it or leave it. However, I am a fan of auto racing (Rolex, Formula-1, & Le Mans) and of course cycling (Tour de France, Giro d’Italia, & Vuelta a España.
14. I don’t dance. Well, I can muster up some old school moves that have long since died in style and favor but anything more than that, I will not only embarrass myself but my partner as well.
15. I love cats. I have had a cat in my life ever since I was a little boy. Our tradition (Mother’s prerogative) was the Siamese or Burmese breads. I’ve had one Burmese and many other breeds since becoming an adult.
16. Growing up I always tried to train myself to keep a diary. At times I did well but often fell out of practice. Looking back, I think the greater fear is that my privacy would be breached, and all of my feelings exposed embarrassingly.
17. I love pens. As a direct result of a manager I worked for, I developed an affinity for quality pens. This manager believed that “a good salesperson always has a quality pen on his / her person”. With that I started with the Jotter by Parker Pens. Several years later, I had a customer who was the owner of a jewelry store that handle high end pens as well. I recall commenting on how nice the pen was that he was using to sign the contract for his purchase. It was a Mont Blanc pen. Several weeks later the gentleman came in to pay the balance for his order and presented me with a gift wrapped box. It was the size of a pen box. He insisted that I open it in his presence, and I did so. Low and behold it was my very first Mont Blanc pen. From there I went on to start a collection of Mont Blanc pens. To date I have four.
18. I don’t have a college degree. I started out as a business major and by the second semester I was a father. My wife and I quickly realized that a new born and scholastic studies don’t mix well. We both dropped out, and life happened with all of its demands in tact.
19. I love sweaters and in particular ones with the Argyle print, and never let an opportunity pass to put one on. This would include Arglye dress socks also.
20. I love winter but hate being cold (a paradox indeed).
21. I started this site without really knowing what direction I wanted to go with it. After giving it much consideration, I have settled with sharing my thoughts about life and my experiences in it. I look to inspire those who read it to consider the good, bad, and the ugly things will give pause for thought and introspection in their own lives.